Authentic Identity

Joe Killian • September 2, 2020

It was a unique opportunity for me to coach four individuals who all had the same job but who managed four different geographical areas.  Typically, I coach members of a team who have varying responsibilities.  Because we were all still living in "quarantine" mode we began the process in an online retreat where I introduced the concepts of the Our Journey WITH God book to the team. We then scheduled coaching sessions that allowed me to guide each individual through the four sections of the book.


In the early phase of the coaching process we talk through the concept of false identity.  This is helpful because it allows us to recognize those times when we are living as someone other than who we truly are.  This happens because long held beliefs and habits permeate our perceptions of who we are and we unknowingly behave in ways contrary to our authentic self.  In fact, it is one of the most common things I observe in the people I coach.  The pressure we face to be something we are not is relentless.  This can cause us to be prone to doubting and even demeaning some of their most uniquely authentic qualities.  I reminded each person that even though they were all doing the same job, they should be doing so in their own unique way.  This is because they all have different authentic identities. 

 

In the last section of the book I make a clear distinction between being and doing with God.  To be precise I say:  "The primary starting point and emphasis of our journey must always focus on knowing and being with God, not just doing for God."  This concept goes beyond prayer time with God, which is, of course, incredibly important.  What we learn in spending that time with Him is a greater understanding of who He created us to be, uniquely––authentically.  This was the message that God had made so clear to me while coaching other teams last year.  What I was hearing God say was, "I want them to be who I created them to be."   


For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

Psalm 139 13-14


What beliefs do you harbor about yourself that may not be true and authentic?  Do you have habitual behaviors that continually frustrate you because they leave you feeling empty and less than whole?   Where might you be living falsely?  Ask God to help you uncover this false identity so that you can live authentically, true to who you are.


Know full well that God desires that you live as He created you to be, in your authentic identity!


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